If you have ever been heartbroken, the new Lydmor single doesn’t need any explanation nor description. It will hit your heart in all the right places. You will listen to it and think, “it is exactly like that“. At the same time, “Someone We Used To Love” will make you want to dance your pain away, as it is a real electro banger.
Jenny Rossander, better known as Lydmor, is one of the artists who never disappoint us with their music. After two internationally-acclaimed albums, many exciting collaborations, side-projects, and a few controversial and electrifying singles—like “LSD Heart”—Lydmor gives us one more reason to call her a truly unique artist.
People who saw her live might be familiar with “Someone We Used To Love”. The song was already played many times. Now, the studio version allows us to dive in and discover its layers even better. The music video for “Someone We Used To Love” consists of snippets of Lydmor’s remarkable performance at Copenhagen Store VEGA in 2019.
“Someone We Used To Love” combines two things — lyrics that aren’t cheerful and music that is a massive energy bomb. Once you hear the beat, there is nothing you can do to resist the urge to dance. This, to me, is a trademark of Danishness—it is okay to be sad on the dancefloor. The musical arrangement, from the first to the last beat, feels flawless. Everything is in the right place. Damn, I can’t wait to bounce to it at a concert!
Lyrically, this time Lydmor explores the issue of feelings towards a person who went from being a lover to a disturbing stranger. The inspiration for “Someone We Used To Love” came from a quote from Oscar Wilde’s “The Picture of Dorian Gray” saying “There is always something ridiculous about the emotions of people whom one has ceased to love.”
She explains about “Someone We Used To Love”:
“I think it’s a very appropriate, arrogant and fantastic thing to shed light on – that thing that happens to us when we have loved someone whom we have now stopped loving. When that person still shows feelings and you find yourself just thinking, “pull yourself together, honestly”. Or if that person shows feelings for someone else and you become like “how can you love someone after loving me? I should be stuck in your heart forever.” This whole thing about people we once loved, where we, almost no matter what is going on emotionally inside, react with disgust. In “Someone We Used To Love” I have taken a scenario where I imagine myself sitting with someone I’m still in love with and you can see this person reacting with this kind of cold disgust, and I’m just sitting there about to break and burst into tears. And you just know that you are completely pathetic.”
It ain’t pretty. Most of us have been there, so we know it. Yet, there is something refreshing in hearing about these feelings in a song. Finally, someone just tells it like it is instead of dressing it in metaphors. Someone hears the most dreadful and worn-out excuse, “sorry, I’ve just been very busy lately.” Someone says “f*ck”.
Lydmor‘s music, with its fearless arrangements and fragile poetry, can provide a great escape or shelter. Whenever I struggle at dealing with emotions and identifying my feelings, songs like “Someone We Used To Love” seem to say to me, “it’s okay, I know, I’m here for you.” Even though the new single paints a picture of someone who knows how pathetic she is, how ugly the whole situation has become, there is something comforting in it. We see these things happen to other people. They are a part of life. And, after screaming/singing along with Lydmor that “nothing matters less to us than the feelings of someone we used to love,” I feel better.
In a world where we feel forced to only show positive sides of our lives and brag about successes in happy Instagram posts, Lydmor reminds us that “life and love can get pretty ugly.” It is okay to show this side too, sometimes, and talk openly and honestly about it. Otherwise, life would be too boring. And fake.